After much "googling" of "Black/Sri Lankan," "African-American and Sri Lankan." "Sri Lanka men and black women," I quickly discovered that there was not much literature on the topic of interracial couples in black/Sri Lankan relationships. That, of course, does not mean we aren't out there, but I was hoping to find more information on the topic.
There are a watershed of blogs about black/white, black/asian, asian/white, "other"/white relationships. This is somewhat frustrating just because people seem to think in terms of "brown/black/red/yellow" + white terms when in fact you have plenty of people of color dating amongst each other. Somehow the world (media, internet) does not seem to acknowledge or be aware of the plethora of brown on brown combinations and the subsequent culture meshing (or clashing) that comes with dating someone outside of your race--even if they aren't white.
I have been married to my Sri-Lankan husband for two-and-a-half years and we have as of yet to run into many Sri-Lankan/African-American couples. I know you are out there! :-)
Ours has been an interesting journey. I hope to share more and maybe find others with a similar story.
Beautiful photo! I am also in an "interracial relationship" I am a lightskinned African American woman and my bf of 5 months is Sri Lankan. Like you, I googled the same things and I didn't find anything on it. I was christmas shopping for him b/c I need more ideas of what to get him and I came accross this blog. I wish the best to both of you. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks so much! I've been terrible at replies! I re-visited this page to see wonderful comments like yours. I hope all is going well for you!
DeleteI am I posted another comment I am now engaged! My how time flies I remember when you first posted the photo of the baby. It's funny I guess for some members of his community to see me with him on his arm. You know many still practice arranged marriages and very few marry outside of their community. I think only you would understand this. They are all very nice and will speak in English to make me feel more included but at many parties. I still experience culture shock... Have you learned to dance Bala? I still can't it just right...lol
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ReplyDeleteI'm been going out with a sri lanakn for a year now since 9th grade I'm african
ReplyDeleteGood luck to you! :)
DeleteSay Bro and Sis... you have a beautiful thing! I'm a 50+ year old soul bro originally from L.A., currently in Seattle researching at the University of Washington. I'm currently focused on Sri Lanka having discovered recently that it was the origin of Buddism and possibly heavily influenced by the African continent (Ala Runoko Rashidi). I was googling for Black Sri Lankan culture and came across your beautiful fam. Ya remind me of of a couple I've seen recently featured on a show my wife (from Compton)watches called Married to Medicine featuring the Huq family of Bangledesh/Afro-American persuasion. You seen it? Continue to be Bold and you will be Blessed.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the kind words! I have heard of the show, but am not too familiar with it, I will check that out!
DeleteI am a Sri Lankan woman who was in a long-distance relationship with a black American man (my Chris! :) ) for four long years, before we finally decided to get married in May this year. We have had our ups and downs but love and understanding of our different cultures/backgrounds, have prevailed! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your experience! It's encouraging to read! :)
DeleteYou two are such a beautiful couple and you have beautiful baby boy! I am enganged to a Sri Lankan man. We met while both working in South Korea! I have been to Sri Lanka two times and I will be going a third time in a few weeks. We are planning to get married soon and its great to know that there are more couples like us out there!! Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteJust know that you are not alone. I have met the most beautiful man in the world and he is from Colombo, Sri Lanka. I couldn't have met a better person. He is smart, witty, and keeps me grounded. How lucky you are.
ReplyDeleteI have been dating him a year and I could never have met a better man. We have our cultural differences, but the love and respect more than compensates for it.
DeleteThanks for sharing, Deborah! We've been married 6 year now, it's definitely been the best slice of my life thus far and we look forward to our future together!
DeleteI'm in a relationship with an sri Lankan women... And I'm an African American male. Thus far I'm going to sri Lanka next July. Wish me luck. Its still early in the relationship. But we will go all the way. I plan to marry her. With the ups and downs. My new Bride.
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ReplyDeleteI am sri Lankan and have been with my boyfriend who is African american for 10 years. We haven't met any couples like us . found your story online. We have a daughter and twins on the way. Your son is adorable.
ReplyDeleteI am sri Lankan and have been with my boyfriend who is African american for 10 years. We haven't met any couples like us . found your story online. We have a daughter and twins on the way. Your son is adorable.
ReplyDeleteI am sri Lankan and my boyfriend is African American. I have yet to meet any other sri lankan-black couples. Ran into your story googling relationships.
ReplyDeleteDon't know how I stumbled on this site. I'm not with an African American (my boyfriend of 6 years is Puerto Rican) and I'm Sri Lankan. My family is very racially diverse. My aunt (she just passed away) was married to an African American for over 45 years. I love seeing people look past ethnicity and race when it comes to dating. Much happiness to you!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for adding this blog but i have been dating my Sri Lankan boyfriend for 1 year and we plan to get married by the end of this year. We have our challenges adapting to a interracial relationship but we are committed to one another. We don't know any interracial couples of our combination, but this helps up visualize a that a future as interracial couple is possible. Thank you, God Bless your family!
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